Touchy stuff, so no names :-|.
Well, I've never actually gossiped, 'cause always thought it's not worth to trust some info about someone that someone can use against you if you catch my drift
. So I prefered to speek my mind to set the record straight and decided not to talk about others when they are absent. The people I didn't like – I just moved away from them as far as possible with the sweetest smile on my face. But recently I got into the situation in which I can't separate from the person I don't like and the friction between us polished my grinds to flat circles (everything with supreme neutrality with one little dent). So I boiled and boiled, storring my frustration, until I have the moment to splash almost all out of it to the persons I trust. And after all this gossiping I felt realy grreat and to my amazement I've started to see the person I dislike in the better light, – like I realy want to build a bridge and make some positive progress in the relation, despite this little things that irritate me. Is it guilt? Is it the new level to the detachment so I don't realy care about "it"? Is it the stuff you do with shrink? Or may be I just needed to deconstruct the character to breake it to pieces and find some redeeming quolities? As I was typing this, the person in the question dropped the line that just summed all that I hate about "it". Meh, I can deal with it. There'll be no victory, only endless struggle to stay positive. Heck, I'm like level 40 diplomat or the witch from Terry Pratchett book.
Feel a little uneasy about the secret now I need to keep about talking behind someone's back, but It feels 100 times lighter than when I was silent behind someone's back.